Posted by Matalasi {211.28.96.71} on December 31, 2002 at 03:22:53:

hi just throught that I would write down my concerns and hopefully i would get an outsiders opinion or advise on this situation i seem to have placed myself in.

Girl meets Guy and they seem to get on like a house on fire. Guy continues to call up girl to chat and laugh...girl slowly comes around and starts to gain feelings for guy. Guy then busts a move on the girl and girl is swept of her feet...only problem is guy tells girl that there is low and behold another girl but he hasnt met her in person so its okay!! technically they arent offically an item so to speak. Girl thinks for a moment and then thinks thats okay he has been honest with her thus far so if its not that serious then it should be okay. For the next couple of days they spend as much waking time together as humanally possible...girl stays with him and isnt even worried whether her family are worried about her. All the girl knows is that she doesnt want to leave him her world is in turmoil because of him but has not been this happy for a while...all she wants to do is to please him...he treats her like shit but she seems to always go back!!!!....irony of it all was when the girl was single and use to chat with her girlfriends about their problems she would advise her girlfriends to lose the damn losers as no man was worth that sort of trouble. Now fast forward and girl finds herself in the same situation as previously described many times by her friends yet now that it is her she doesnt seem to have the same confidence and strength to do as she had previously advised " lose him!!!! " My question is this...He declares his love for her yet he leaves her in a couple of weeks to chase his dreams so to speak she loves him and doesnt want to hold him back...she cant think of life without him yet she lets him go...he makes her promise to move on with her life when he goes, indicating to her that he wasnt serious about them to start of with because all she wants is a confirmation from him that even though he is leaving her all she wants to hear is that it is her that he wants and nobody else...he doesnt realise that this is all she needs and is satisfied with this and until he tells her that he no longer wants her then it is then she will move on...yes with a broken heart but she will move on as her motto has always been "What doesnt kill you makes you stronger!" and by this she will continue her journey through life. Sorry i seem to be going off the topic...why does love have the tendency to pop up out of the blue and SOMETIMES when it does it seems to be that it is either for life or for just a brief moment....when they say that it is better to have loved than to not have loved at all...does anyone trully believe this? you see my view on this is like this....Yes I have loved even though it was for a brief moment but it seems that the most painful thing of all is that the memories that this so called love has left behind...it now seems that i am to sit here and think about all the times we have spent together and really all im left with is the hauntings so to speak of this so called love i just experienced...why do we as humans have these feelings and why is it that if your not strong enough it can mean it could either break you or make you!!!! why are even here on earth...what is our purpose? why do we do things that hurt others and not think about the consequences of our actions? bottom line is does this guy who continues to declare his love to her...can she trust him as it has taken her several years to still get over her first relationship and now out of the blue she has been placed into a situation again where she needs to think about someone else for once and not herself....even though it has been great she does not feel safe...she wants off this ride as it is unfimiliar grounds to her...she has lost control and wnats out even though for her this guy is it....for her there will be no-one else but does he really return the same feelings????

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